The difference between knowing your limits and short-changing yourself

A rather personal post today, after an unintentionally long  absence.  Read on and you’ll understand why. “You can’t do that.  You’re insane” I have deliberately messed up my work-life balance this year, adding study to my already hectic life. And of all things, I’m attempting a law degree. Yes, it’s one more ball in the air, and a really big one. Friends …

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“No pain, no gain”

If you really believe in this saying, you’d be a masochist.  Think about it. People use this phrase to push themselves or others through tough times, to motivate and encourage but realistically how can pain motivate?  I think this belief may be the cause of many failures. I believe that pain can lead to growth but is not necessary for …

Self-belief – the hidden treasure

Several months after reading Outliers and I’m still feeling its impact. After stewing on it for a while, I decided that it would be worth sharing this story. I’ve always believed that I was self-made.  When I started out in the workforce, I didn’t have family connections or old school networks to give me a boost.  I started from scratch and …

When was the last time you rewarded yourself?

When you read the title of this article, are you thinking….. “Reward – what’s that?”  or “Reward – when would I fit that in?” or “I’ve got more important things to worry about than to think about rewards!” Being constantly weighed down by the day-to-day grind sometimes means that the last thing we think about is rewarding ourselves.  If you …

Self Matters

Are you living a life that has been determined by other people’s expectations?  Do you feel unfulfilled and know that something is missing?  Perhaps it is because you are not living an authentic life.  This book by “Dr Phil” addresses these issues and provides some practical steps on how analyse the critical decisions, people and events that have contributed to …

It can’t be done

“It can’t be done”  Full stop.  How many times have you heard this statement?  It is potentially the most disempowering set of words that anyone could utter worsened only by “I can’t do it” which is self-defeating.   This is a mindset that can be changed with practice.  Try redeeming these terrible phrases with the words “but”. For example: “It can’t be done …